Aziz
Ansari pieced together love and marriage in older times versus love and marriage
now, in the modern world, and how it has changed.
After interviewing people, he realized some things
that were common among them.
- People got married to people who lived in the same neighborhood or even in the same building.
- Women got married at the age of twenty and men got married at the age of twenty-three. Whereas now women are marrying around the age of twenty-seven and men are marrying around the age of twenty-nine.
- And finally, that most of the older women felt that they were missing a part of their life.
Much like these rings,
all these reasons for marriage are connected and linked together. The women
felt that they were missing a stage of their life because women were not
allowed to leave home and were not allowed to have a lot of freedom. They would
get married to leave the house, but marriage came with more responsibilities,
such as having children and taking care of their husband. Which is why they
would tell their children and grandchildren to enjoy themselves. Giving rise to
a stage in a person’s life called emerging adulthood. A stage in an adult’s
life where a person can focus on education, focus on a career and earning
money, and finally focus on finding the perfect partner, rather than marry
someone who lives close to them just to get a little bit of freedom. This
explains why the average age of women and men when they get married is much
higher.
Furthermore, when one
ring is released from the top (watch the first thirty seconds of the video to see this) it seems to have a cascading event, which seems to change the order
of the rings. This is similar to the effect of modern technology and its effect
on love, or the way it continues to change the way young people go about
expressing love. According to the survey that Aziz includes in the book, “In
2010 only 10 percent of young adults used texts to ask someone out for the
first time, compared with 32 percent in 2013.” This is because more people have
smart phones, there are more modes of social networking which has free
messaging options, and messaging is quick, easy, and fun. One thing lead to
another with technological advancement and the way love is expressed.
